Nature and Nurture

We’re all born with our own particular nature. When that nature is nourished as a child, we stand a much greater chance of developing in a healthy, happy way. When our nature is ignored, neglected or we’re forced by parents and other well-meaning authority...

Opportunities to Heal

When we’re feeling hurt or angry at someone, continuing to blame out rarely helps the situation. The truth is, our feelings aren’t caused by the outside world. They are the result of our own interpretations. An old wound has most likely been activated and...

Power Struggles

Relationships are often plagued by power struggles. Maneuvering for power is an attempt to correct a sense of powerlessness, which developed in childhood, usually the result of growing up with an over controlling parent. However, we’ll never be able to improve...

Defensiveness

When we find ourselves defending against an accusation, it’s usually an indication that we are repressing a feeling. If we sincerely ask ourselves why we are feeling defensive, we realize that we’re protecting ourselves from a truth that might feel too...

True Freedom

Freedom and self-acceptance are the natural outcome of living in authentic alignment with our own values. Feeling the need to pretend, manipulate or control others comes from the fear that we won’t be able to get what we want or keep what we have if we’re...

Judging Vs. Discerning

In school we are taught that the ability to measure, evaluate and critically analyze people, facts and situations is vital to our success. Good judgment implies being able to differentiate between what’s beneficial and what’s not When we are discerning,...