The Highest Version

The real reason we want something is because we think it will make us feel a certain way. But that person, place or thing, we think will do the trick, might not. The best results come from imagining and embodying the feeling now. Before the desire arrives, be willing...

It’s a Dynamic

The quality and style of every interaction we have with another is the result of a dynamic created by the two. Aspects of our personalities land on people in varying ways. One person might be aggravated by the same behavior someone else finds endearing. Remembering...

It’s Not Personal

If we make our opinions known, we’re bound to get some push back. But others reactions aren’t about us, they’re about our ideas and beliefs. Separating the two can help us respond less defensively and open to exploring their opinions as well. Even...

Telling the Truth

The truth is, truth is often difficult to pin down. We all see through the filters of our own belief system and perspective. That’s why there can be many different accounts and interpretations of a particular event. We hear and see not only what we believe but...

Words Matter

The way we say something affects the way others hear it. Starting a sentence with ‘you’ when we’re about to judge them, can quickly shut off their ability to hear us. When we instead tell them how we feel when they say or do something, they are more...

Prime the Pump

Our judgments of others are hidden expressions of unmet desires or needs. When we’re not getting our needs met, it’s common to blame it on someone, especially when we’re wanting it from them, in particular. But, no one else is responsible for how we...