No Ifs, Ands or Buts

Your life has a certain natural pace and rhythm to it. Many of the people, places and things that appear in your field of awareness can’t easily be traced back to a conscious choice or action that you’ve taken. That’s why it’s essential to...

Don’t Box Yourself In

We develop our identities early in life according to family, ethnic group or religion. Later we use careers, hobbies and talents to differentiate ourselves. But, believing that these circumstantial elements define who we are is limiting. It’s like squeezing...

A Perspective on Plans

Some planning is necessary and useful, but spending too much time projecting into the future can cause you to miss out on what’s happening now. Even when your planned future does come, if you’re not in the habit of being present you’ll miss out on...

Peace Now

If you want to feel better right now, accept what is. Allow this moment to be. Honor your feelings and remember that not all feelings need to be acted on even though they do need to be felt. Arguing with the reality of the situation is stressful and futile. When you...

Internal Traffic Jams

If you’re driving and someone cuts you off, the car behind is too close and the one on the left invades your lane, it can be stressful and overwhelming. Then you remember that you just need to pay attention, stay calm and carry on. You suffer less when you...

Reality Rules

When life doesn’t go the way we think it should, it doesn’t mean it’s wrong. It just means it didn’t go according to our plan. But the slice of reality that we perceive is so small that we aren’t capable of comprehending why things unfold...