Difficulties in relationships don’t necessarily indicate there’s something wrong. All growth requires moving in and out of balance and harmony. In healthy couples, intimacy continues to deepen while autonomy expands. The key to keeping relationships evolving lies in maintaining a low tolerance for dissatisfaction, a high tolerance for honest self-expression and the willingness to process what comes up. Stuffed emotions don’t just dissolve and transform into peacefulness, they fester. Communicating your real feelings and listening to one another with a sincere desire to find mutually satisfying solutions not only builds trust and stability, it produces…
Happy people.
Jarl and Steve
(oops, a partially edited version of this post accidentally went out. Thank you everyone who brought this to our attention. We love feed back, questions and comments, so keep them coming.)
“Healthy couples experience an increase in intimacy continues and autonomy.”
Huh?
(Sorry to just comment on an apparent mistake. I’m a big fan of your dailies.)
I have found that a relationship requires dealing with the difficulties that come up, so it is odd to see it referred as “not necessarily a bad thing.”
That third sentence, starting with “Healthy couples…” may be missing part of the thought behind it. The two verbs “experience” and “continues” seem to be competing for something unseen.
Love, Larry