When you experience tension with someone, it’s easy to remain fixated on your side of the story while frustratedly thinking that the other person should change. But it’s never just one side that causes a problem. It’s the dynamic between the two of you that creates it. Considering the possible legitimacy of the other person’s point of view helps you loosen up. That letting go creates some slack. When there’s slack…

There’s no tension.

Steve and Jarl