Relax Minor Objections

by Merci Gracia | Mar 19, 2015 | Allow What Is to Be

Minds that are free from excessive stress and fear are naturally at ease. But every additional judgment and resentment we carry makes it harder to be content. Each complaint adds to the list of things that we feel must change before we permit ourselves to enjoy life....

Change the Music

by Merci Gracia | Jul 9, 2014 | Appreciation

The most important environment you experience in life is the one in your head. The constant stream of observations, judgments, exhortations and self-critiques that characterize it determine how you’ll feel, what you’ll do and how you do it. If your dance...

Love Your Reflection

by Merci Gracia | Jun 22, 2014 | Self Acceptance, Self-Awareness

How you view anyone else actually reveals how you feel about yourself. Your judgments of others are reflections of your own lack of self-acceptance. You meet others with the same level of compassion and understanding you give yourself. You can pretend that what you...

Judgments Are Self-Revealing

by Merci Gracia | Apr 29, 2014 | Acceptance, Judgments

If you notice yourself frequently judging people, take note. Failure to accept others is usually a sign that you lack self-acceptance. Though you probably think your judgments are about them, you’re often just reacting to behavior that you also engage in, feel...

Your Friends Are Reflections

by Merci Gracia | Oct 2, 2013 | Judgments

When you spend time with friends who love and accept you, do you think you feel good because of them or because their behavior matches the way you feel about yourself? When you’re around someone who criticizes or judges you and it feels bad, do you blame them...