Discernment Vs. Judgment

by Merci Gracia | Jun 18, 2013 | Compassion, Conditioning, Discernment, Feelings

When you dislike another person’s behavior, it can be experienced either as a discernment or a judgment. Judgment happens when you view their behavior as wrong and the cause of your feelings. With discernment, you recognize that it’s your own conditioning...

Off the Hook

by Merci Gracia | Jun 15, 2013 | Appreciation, Judgments

When you get the feeling that someone doesn’t respect or value you, do you begin to create a narrative in your head detailing the ways in which they’re not competent, intelligent or worthy? This mostly unconscious practice is extremely detrimental because:...

Clear Vision Has No Scorn

by Merci Gracia | Jun 6, 2013 | Judgments, Perception

It’s easy to be critical and think others aren’t doing it right. You may believe you could do a better job because you see what others don’t. However, you might not be seeing the constraints and limitations they’re dealing with. And you may...

Judgment Turns to Compassion

by Merci Gracia | May 5, 2013 | Conscious, Judgments, Understanding

Symptom nine of Conscious Awakening:  Judging others or yourself loses its appeal. The habit of judging others comes from a lack of self-acceptance. What you don’t accept in yourself gets projected on to others and disliked ‘out there’. When you...

Clear Consciousness

by Merci Gracia | Sep 29, 2012 | Conditioning, Conscious, Judgments, Truth, Understanding

Clear consciousness results when you’re present in this moment, without judgment of yourself or anyone else. It is then that you see beyond the filter of your beliefs about what should or should not be and into the understanding that ‘what is’, is...