Don’t Seek Security

by Merci Gracia | Jan 11, 2013 | Authenticity, Choices

Peace of mind is often equated with security. But the truth is, security is just an illusion. Since you can never really know what lies ahead, maintaining an obsessive preoccupation with the future makes very little sense. When you aren’t overly concerned about...

Why the Real You is Perfect

by Merci Gracia | Dec 4, 2012 | Authenticity, Choices

When the world is predictable, it becomes boring! While social norms allow people to live in proximity with a degree of safety and cohesion, overemphasizing convention discourages creativity and uniqueness. It sometimes even encourages you to repress or disguise the...

Set Yourself Free

by Merci Gracia | Nov 3, 2012 | Authenticity, Empowering, Freedom

Do you sometimes bend yourself to make others like you because you’re unsure of how they’ll react to the ‘real you’? Ironically, when you’re not being authentic, it makes others feel uneasy and it’s difficult for them to be...

The Goal Behind the Goal

by Merci Gracia | Oct 21, 2012 | Authenticity, Awareness, Feelings, Honesty

The underlying motivation behind everything you do is to feel good. Even seemingly selfless acts like helping your friends, volunteering for a non-profit or donating to a charity, are done because it feels good to be of assistance. Of course there’s nothing...

Do You Have Approval Disorder?

by Merci Gracia | Sep 28, 2012 | Authenticity, Honesty, Self-Awareness

Worrying about what others think of you is bad for your self-esteem. It sends a message to your subconscious mind that you’re not in charge of your life and leaves you with a vague sense of insecurity. Comparing yourself with others, causes you to ignore your...