When our buttons get pushed, it can seem impossible to avoid an angry reaction, though we know lashing out just makes matters worse. Emotional energy aimed at others, who (naturally) believe their behavior was warranted or acceptable, just activates anger in them. Feeling unjustly attacked, they’re likely to respond in kind. Two angry people doubles the anger and drama. If possible, it’s wise to pause during the apex of anger and process our emotions by feeling them as sensations in our bodies. If we still feel the need after cooling down, we can communicate how we feel…

With kindness.