Everyone carries psychological scar tissue caused by well-meaning, but also-wounded loved ones. No matter how painful, it’s important to remember that no healthy person ever tries to create suffering in others. If someone does intend to cause hurt, it’s only because they mistakenly believe it will somehow make them feel better. You may need to steer clear of their unconscious and clumsy behavior, but don’t think for a second that it has anything whatsoever to do with you. Since it’s never personal, do yourself a favor and…
Don’t take on that baggage.
Steve and Jarl
This one is clear enough to me, for I do understand that people are doing the best they can under their own circumstances.
The bigger thing to me is exploring that “psychological scar tissue” … What little un-dredged-up thing makes me think that hurts?? When I’m feeling put off by someone else, it’s my own reaction that needs examination.