You live in a self-constructed reality and look at life through the lens of your own experience. Since everyone else is also interpreting reality from their unique point of view, assuming you understand their motivation can mean trouble. When somebody pushes your emotional buttons, rather than assuming that they intended to offend or hurt you, sincerely ask them to clarify what they meant. Give them the benefit of the doubt. What you find will surprise and delight you. Alternatively, if you’re going to continue to guess their intentions…
Assume the best.
Steve and Jarl
