The need to control other people and situations stems from a basic insecurity that makes us believe we can only be safe if we’re in charge. This essential fear causes us to continuously try to direct the people and circumstances we encounter, so we can feel more comfortable. But this is a fools errand because we can never really control everything and others don’t enjoy us trying to control them. It’s far more practical  to recognize our fear, feel it our bodies and, realizing that we’re very small actors in an enormous play, try to make peace with…

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