Open channels of communication produce the best results in all relationships. In order to avoid long term build up of unexpressed issues, it’s important to let others know when something related to them is bothering us. The same goes for listening to their concerns. Pretending everything is okay creates grooves of anger and resentment that eventually turn into unbridgeable ravines that become too deep to traverse. Tell them how you’re feeling by using “I” statements without blaming them. Allow them to do the same. Having this kind of working relationship creates relationships…
That work.
Jarl and Steve
Very helpful. As plain as it all is, I need every clue I can get into my past relationships, because I would like to find/make one that works.
The biggest clue I have seen is the thought that people will not respect me more than I respect myself, and I have been conscious of that for only a few years. I target having my consciousness fully engaged before I am eighty. Then I will have a whole generation left to make good use of it! 🙂