It’s important to choose your words carefully so they don’t generate shame, blame, or guilt. You’re entitled to your opinions and preferences, just try to express them with love. Your words have the power to uplift or tear down. Use that power to do for others what you’d like done for you. Let the yardstick you use to measure the effectiveness of your communication be the Golden Rule…
Speak with words you’d like to hear.
Steve and Jarl
Lovely simplicity, and seems so plain! But I am finding, after just a small amount of conscious practice in using loving words for others, that sometimes the words I hear myself saying end up showing me what it is that I want, myself, which suggests hidden power in what looks like ‘just being nice’.
We “scientists” are used to looking in hidden crannies for gifts of knowledge, but it seems we have sometimes forgotten to stop looking and start being. “Looking for” is kind of presumptuous and passive, and I think we try too hard at the wrong things.
Maybe “letting” is more active than “seeking”?