Trouble Forgiving?

by Merci Gracia | Oct 12, 2012 | Forgiveness, Intention, Judgments, Perception, Suffering, Victim Thinking

Are you having trouble forgiving someone? No matter how offensive their behavior, remember your judgment is felt by you first. Since your subconscious mind makes no distinction between you and others, it assumes all criticism is about you. This plays havoc with your...

You Can Make it Easy or Difficult

by Merci Gracia | Oct 8, 2012 | Beliefs, Kindness, Victim Thinking

Your spin on things determines whether or not you’re happy about the events that fill your day. If you think it’s a dog-eat-dog world, your experience is going to be much more of a struggle than if you believe life is kind and supportive. Each approach...

Do You Wallow or Feel?

by Merci Gracia | Sep 8, 2012 | Attention, Feelings, Focus, Suffering, Victim Thinking

When life presents you with a huge challenge, do you resent the well-meaning and encouraging words from people you know? If so, check in to see if you’ve actually felt your feelings yet. You may have skipped that step and gone straight into creating an identity...

Handling Dissapointment

by Merci Gracia | Aug 28, 2012 | Feelings, Trust, Victim Thinking

When you feel bad because something has (or hasn’t) happened, try this little experiment: trust that it’s for the best. No matter what it is, have the humility to realize that you can’t actually know what the alternatives are or if they’re...

The Spectrum of Possibility

by Merci Gracia | Aug 16, 2012 | Attention, Balance, Focus, Happiness, Problems, Victim Thinking, Worry

Your freewill enables you to focus your attention in a tremendous variety of ways. While tragedies and misfortune happen all the time, continually placing your attention on them doesn’t help you or anyone else. Choosing to focus on that which pleases you raises...

Create Rather Than Complain

by Merci Gracia | Jul 12, 2012 | Change, Create, Problems, Victim Thinking

If you want to improve the quality of your life, don’t spend time lamenting what is. That only perpetuates the current situation and makes it more difficult to change. Acknowledge what needs improvement, then focus on what you’d like to see. This keeps...