Pain Without Suffering

by | Jan 13, 2019 | Suffering, Toxic Emotions, Victim Thinking

Pain and suffering are related, but quite different from one another. Both physical and emotional pain result from a wound, affliction or illness. Suffering is a signal that the mind and ego have become involved. We don’t always have control over what causes...

Complaining = Helplessness

by | Mar 4, 2018 | Victim Thinking

When things don’t go according to plan, it’s tempting to complain about it and then complain about it some more, fooling yourself into thinking that if you talk about it enough and get enough people to agree with you, you’re somehow working on the...

Responsibility Empowers You

by | Jun 3, 2017 | Empowering, Victim Thinking

If you feel victimized, try to endure the discomfort long enough to investigate how you may have (inadvertently) participated in creating the situation. Rather than shifting the blame to yourself, this exercise can be deeply empowering. It acknowledges that if you...

We’re Making It Up

by | Feb 25, 2017 | Create Your Reality, Victim Thinking

We all interpret the world with incomplete and biased information. We forget that our opinions aren’t facts, but rather just a single, narrow perspective viewed through the squinty filter of our own particular history. This is fine as long as we’re not...

All One

by | Jul 17, 2016 | Victim Thinking

Everything you can see or sense is a product of the same energetic force. When you think you’re separate, it’s easier to take on the role of victim and persecutor. Failing to understand the fundamental connectedness of all that exists, you work and...

Abandon Victimhood

by | Jun 27, 2015 | Victim Thinking

Being a victim means you allow the actions of others to define you and make you suffer. But even blatant attacks aren’t personal. How can this be? Even when others intend to hurt you, they’re reacting to their own biased story about who they perceive you...