Comparison Trap

Society celebrates competition in academics, sports, careers and even beauty. It’s challenging to make our emotional well-being independent from these external measurements but, if we want inner peace, we have to. Sustained well-being necessitates having an...

The Hubris of Judgment

The idea that you could meaningfully compare the intrinsic worth of one person with that of another simply by considering a few factors, is preposterous. Even though some people may not ever achieve conventionally defined success, you can’t possibly know how...

The Power of Honoring Your Word

Following through on commitments and doing what you say you’ll do sends a message to others that your word is of value. When you consistently disregard the plans you’ve made and change your mind at will, it’s difficult for others to take what you say...

Keeping Commitments

When you keep your word, you stay in your integrity. Even though you’ll obviously need to change your plans from time to time, doing it regularly makes you seem unreliable. Scheduling and not following through because you’re not in the mood or because...

The Ultimate Approval

When your behavior is in alignment with your values, you feel good about yourself. When it’s not, you worry about what others think and try to please them to feel validated. This approach leaves you scrambling and unsure of yourself. Since you can’t really...