by Merci Gracia | Nov 7, 2018 | Thoughts, Toxic Emotions
Being mindful means being aware of what’s going on in our minds. The quality of our dominant thoughts determines the quality of our lives. If our thoughts are mostly negative, we’ll feel mostly unhappy. If our thoughts are generally positive, we’ll feel...
by Merci Gracia | Aug 8, 2017 | Toxic Emotions
Do you get impatient or indignant waiting when others are late? If you’d like to stop torturing yourself over someone else’s behavior, you can create a whole new way of thinking. It has to do with accepting each moment as it comes and avoiding blame....
by Merci Gracia | Oct 20, 2016 | Relationship, Toxic Emotions
Grudges Hurt You Most Staying angry at someone for a perceived wrong is being neither kind to yourself nor wise. You are the one who carries the energy-draining weight of the grudge. Dropping it doesn’t mean you have to play with them, it just means you lose the...
by Merci Gracia | Sep 27, 2016 | Toxic Emotions
Hate is a potent emotion that comes from fear and insecurity. Hate appears when some aspect of your identity, belief system or (rarely) your survival is threatened. Indulging in this emotion is detrimental to your well-being because your own subconscious mind...
by Merci Gracia | Dec 26, 2014 | Love, Toxic Emotions
When you feel guilty for not doing something you think you should, take another look. You may have a legitimate reason for your reluctance. The feeling of obligation may be coming from the voices of authority figures from your past who were projecting their own values...
by Merci Gracia | Oct 25, 2014 | Compassion, Patience, Toxic Emotions
Have you ever been in a really good mood and encountered someone grouchily spewing negativity? It’s amazing how quickly you can shift from a generally contented frame of mind to a critical one – about them! Your reaction shows up as an impulse to be...