Building Cases

It’s common to ruminate over stories about unwanted experiences. Again and again we rehash how something shouldn’t have happened the way it did or someone shouldn’t have done what they did. While this is fairly routine for most of us, it really just...

Complaining Versus Fixing

When we’re disappointed, it’s normal to want to talk about it to others. Whether to discuss the injustice of the situation or complain about someone’s unacceptable behavior, processing unwanted events this way is detrimental to our well-being....

Beyond Thought

One of the most effective ways to find solutions to perplexing problems is to stop the linear thought process altogether. It’s only by quieting a busy mind that you create enough space for new insights to percolate up from the subconscious. Try it by sitting...

Whatever Is Bothering You

When something bothers you, do you complain to friends and family about it? Getting sympathy from loved ones may seem like a good strategy, but it’s not a real solution. Healing uncomfortable emotions requires feeling them as sensations in your body without...

It Just Takes One

When you find yourself caught in a familiar argument or drama with a friend, family member or mate, be the one to step up to higher ground by trying to find a resolve rather than prove who’s right and wrong. Stop the tug-a-war and just listen for a moment....

Intentions Matter

Some people unconsciously believe that complaining about what’s wrong is the same as doing something about it. But all it really does is lock in the unpleasant energy and slow the likelihood of seeing positive change when it does come. Complaining reinforces...