Personal Responsibility = Growth

by | Jan 6, 2021 | Anger, Blame, shame

Anger is often the result of old emotional wounds getting triggered. Even though a nearby person may appear be the offending party, this is rarely the case. When old wounds get reactivated, blaming outward causes us to miss important opportunities to heal. Personal...

Shaming Doesn’t Work

by | Jun 2, 2020 | shame

Lockdown fatigue or fear of the consequences of COVID-19 may characterize our state of mind. Depending on our programming, we may become agitated when they fail to observe currently expert safety protocol (or our version of correct protocol).  Recommendations for...

Freedom and Self-Acceptance

by | May 9, 2016 | Self-esteem, shame

Freedom and self-acceptance are the natural outcome of living in authentic alignment with your own values. Feeling the need to pretend, manipulate or control others comes from the fear that you won’t be able to get what you want or keep what you have if...

Be Nice

by | Oct 7, 2014 | Self-Awareness, Self-esteem, shame

No matter who you’re talking to, the way you talk has the biggest impact on you. Your subconscious mind doesn’t differentiate between you and others, so when you speak disrespectfully, angrily or in a shaming manner, you’re actually doing it to...

Empathy for Yours Truly

by | Sep 6, 2014 | shame

There’s a viewpoint about yourself and your life that can bridge the gap between stress and comfort; dissatisfaction and happiness. It involves recognizing that you are a by-product of your conditioning and genetics. You may not even be aware of the cause of...

Shame Is a Sham

by | Dec 2, 2013 | shame

Anytime you feel less-than-worthy or inadequate, take note. It’s the unfortunate result of having been conditioned by well-intentioned but misguided people. Rather than establishing healthy boundaries and enforcing reasonable consequences, shame is often used to...