Worthy without Comparison

by Merci Gracia | Dec 18, 2015 | Self-esteem

Comparing yourself with others is a high-risk, low return proposition. If you learn about excellence from others, it can help you understand what’s possible. But, building up your ego by comparing yourself favorably with others, will eventually make you feel...

People Pleasing

by Merci Gracia | Sep 19, 2015 | Self-esteem, Self-love

People pleasing arises out of a basic feeling of unworthiness. It’s the result of a belief that who we are isn’t enough. In order to avoid feeling this way, we try to orchestrate a positive reflection from the outside by trying to make others happy. This...

Nothing’s Wrong With You

by Merci Gracia | Aug 7, 2015 | Self-esteem

Children raised by adults who focus on keeping them ‘in line’ find their natural instincts to explore met with restraint or even shame. This creates people who feel like there’s something inherently wrong with them. While it takes serious...

True Independence

by Merci Gracia | Jul 4, 2015 | Self-esteem

The desire to feel appreciated is natural. But in the quest to garner recognition from others we can develop an overly outward-looking approach to life and forget this important truth: Our experience and how we feel about it has little to do with anything on the...

Let the Chips Fall

by Merci Gracia | Jun 5, 2015 | Self-esteem

Do you ever feel inadequate or inferior? Do you worry about what others think of you and fear you come up wanting? Do you look for approval from the outside world but never quite get what you’re looking for? If you answered yes to any of these questions,...

Worthiness

by Merci Gracia | Mar 16, 2015 | Self-esteem

When we don’t receive the love we need as children, we can suffer from persistent self-esteem issues in adulthood. If we were raised by narcissistic or immature parents, being honest with ourselves about this truth is necessary before we can move on to...