Seeking Validation

by | Jul 27, 2017 | Self-esteem

Trying to convince someone to respect you is likely to produce the opposite effect. They’ll feel your need and it’s harder to respect someone who’s pulling it from you. You can’t strategize or manipulate respect out of others, it has to come...

Connection Is about Presence

by | Dec 22, 2016 | Self Acceptance, Self-esteem

Trying to impress others with what you do, who you know or how much you have is laborious, unsatisfying and ultimately counterproductive. People who care about superficialities aren’t real friends. Friendship and human connection are based on energy. Chasing...

Believe in Yourself First

by | Sep 17, 2016 | Self-esteem

We all modify our behavior to accommodate whoever we’re dealing with. But if we’re insecure and unsure of ourselves, others hear that message loud and clear and respond accordingly. Alternatively, if we treat ourselves with love, respect and dignity,...

The Rescuer Complex

by | Aug 27, 2016 | Self-Awareness, Self-esteem

Basing our self-worth on our ability to rescue others might seem noble, but upon deeper reflection we see it necessitates someone else being weak so that we can feel good. This unhealthy dynamic doesn’t help them, in fact, it takes their power away. The reason...

Freedom and Self-Acceptance

by | May 9, 2016 | Self-esteem, shame

Freedom and self-acceptance are the natural outcome of living in authentic alignment with your own values. Feeling the need to pretend, manipulate or control others comes from the fear that you won’t be able to get what you want or keep what you have if...

Healthy, Happy and Wise

by | Mar 9, 2016 | Self-esteem

Do you believe you deserve to be healthy (mentally and physically), wealthy (in all ways) and wise? If you are those things now, it’s probably because you believe you deserve it. If any of these elude you, it might be because you have an unconscious belief that...