Who to Impress

As babies, we seek to please our parents for our survival. As we grow we learn that pleasing teachers and authority figures helps in getting good grades and achieving success. This early experience usually results in an unconscious drive to impress others in order to...

Mirrors

The reflections we get from the outside mirror our self-esteem. Others subconsciously pick up on how we feel about ourselves and without even realizing it, tend to comply with our expectations. We often can’t help but interpret their words and actions through...

Not Worth it

Talking negatively or complaining about others is self-destructive. It’s usually an unconscious attempt to boost our ego by comparing ourselves favorably to them. Because our subconscious minds don’t distinguish who it is we’re speaking about, it...

Only Love Is Real

Our programming determines what we believe and expect, whether it’s accurate or not. If we have trust issues, we’re likely to notice things that justify our suspicions. If we’re prone to fear, our imagination sees danger everywhere, turning ropes...

Right Words and Self-Talk

The way we express ourselves impacts our entire life experience. Our choice of words affects how others feel about us and, more importantly, sends a message to our own subconscious mind, which takes those words at face value. Criticizing or berating ourselves not only...

Healthy Self-Esteem

True well-being is only possible when we have healthy self-esteem. How we feel about ourselves actually affects every aspect of our lives. Feeling superior to others is often a sign of latent insecurity. Superiority and inferiority are two sides of the same coin. When...