Validate Yourself

As we move through different stages in life our goals change. In youth we want to fit in. As we blossom, we focus on finding a romantic partner, developing a career and creating a family and/or group identity. As we get mature, we hope to have ‘made a...

Confident Radiance

The desire to feel appreciated is natural. But in the quest to garner recognition from others we can develop an overly outward-looking approach to life and forget this important truth: How we feel about our own efforts has little to do with other people and everything...

Treat Others

The way we treat others affects our own self-esteem because our subconscious minds understand the truth that we’re all one. When we verbally or even mentally criticize someone else, it registers the judgments as if they were about us. Our self-esteem has a huge...

Where the Answer Lies

Goals change as we move through different stages in life. When we’re young, we want to fit in. Eventually, we’re interested in finding a romantic partner, excelling in our career and having a family. As we age, we begin to think about making our...

No Comparison

Comparing ourselves with others is a high-risk, low return proposition. While learning about excellence from others can help us understand what’s possible, building up our egos by comparing ourselves favorably with them will eventually make us feel worse...

Everyone Is a Mirror.

While it can often appear that others affect how we feel about ourselves, they really just mirror our own self-perception. Those who doubt, criticize or otherwise ‘make us feel bad’ aren’t actually the cause of the way we feel. They’re simply...