Relationship Balance

by | Mar 12, 2017 | Relationship

Healthy relationships maintain a particular kind of balance that helps accelerate personal growth for each individual. That balance is a result of being neither too merged nor too independent. Overly merged partners can lose confidence in their ability to function...

Relationships Part Vl

by | Mar 7, 2017 | Relationship

Letting go of the need to control has a deeply liberating effect on our relationships. Trying to control how others behave is exhausting and unpleasant for all involved. We don’t get to decide every twist and turn that we or others experience. Trying will...

Relationships, Communication Part V

by | Mar 6, 2017 | Relationship

Learning to communicate effectively (and lovingly) takes practice and courage. Expressing ourselves honestly can feel scary, especially when we’re not used to doing it. If we were taught as children that our feelings don’t matter, opening up emotionally...

Relationships Part lV, Arguments

by | Mar 5, 2017 | Relationship

Arguments are actually a necessary part of healthy relationships. Studies show that couples who argue are happier and more likely to stay together and than those who stuff their feelings and avoid conflict. But, too much bickering can put a strain on any relationship....

Relationships, Part lll

by | Mar 4, 2017 | Cooperation, Relationship

Softening and letting go in an argument doesn’t mean we don’t express our feelings. It means we do it with less attachment to being right or winning. It means we do it with the intention to communicate so we can understand one another. Understanding...

Relationships Part 2

by | Mar 3, 2017 | Relationship

How do we learn to let go of the need to be right or win the argument? By realizing that the part of us that feels threatened is our egoic identity. It’s not who we really are. We’re so much bigger than the personality and image we project. Softening by easing...