Relation Ship

Our relations with others are like ships upon which we set sail together. Within every union, each party contributes to the building of the ship. The nature and quality of the time we spend together determines the kind of adventures we’ll encounter and the...

Welcome Everything

Craving and aversion create suffering. How tightly you hold onto your preferences determines your capacity to love and enjoy life. When you understand the cyclical nature of life, you rarely fall into an abyss of dejection or sadness. Many things you didn’t...

Disowned Feelings

We can see what we don’t like about ourselves by looking at our relationships. We project our lack of self-acceptance onto others and believe that they’re actually responsible for the way we feel about them. Of course, there are people we prefer to keep at...

Owning Problems

When others don’t behave according to our preferences, it doesn’t mean we’re right and they’re wrong. Their job is to honor their own feelings. If our reaction to their choices makes us feel bad, anxious or nervous, quick relief is best found...

Below the Surface

The quality of your relationships is affected as much by your thoughts about them as it is by what you do or say when you’re together. Everyone unconsciously senses the way others think and feel about them. If you harbor private judgments about someone, that...