by Merci Gracia | Jan 3, 2019 | Relationship
If we ever really loved someone, that feeling is still within us. We may be disappointed that they no longer fit a particular role, but love isn’t about filling roles. Real love means we want the other to be who they want to be. The path of our personal...
by Merci Gracia | Dec 6, 2018 | Relationship
Everything is energy. Our relationships are each, at the fundamental level, a dance of energy. The nature of our connections is determined by the quality of the energy we put into them. For instance, when we come on strong, the other usually pulls back and when...
by Merci Gracia | Nov 20, 2018 | Anger, Relationship
Many emotional dramas can be avoided by simply pausing before reacting. When someone is feeling distraught and says something that triggers us, it’s common to respond from a perspective of indignation, as if to say, ‘How dare you characterize me that...
by Merci Gracia | Nov 15, 2018 | Relationship
When you’re in a power struggle with someone, repeatedly hashing over the details in your mind or rehearsing what you want to say to them will not bring the energy between you back into harmony. Because everything starts as energy, dealing with troubling issues...
by Merci Gracia | Oct 25, 2018 | Handling Emotions, Relationship
When a feud is simmering or about to erupt, it’s useful to ask ourselves what’s really important? Do we want to be right or loving? What’s the cost of standing our ground and the benefit of flexibility? If our feelings are hurt, is it possible to...
by Merci Gracia | Sep 28, 2018 | Communicate lovingly, Relationship
We often unconsciously expect others to read our minds and know exactly what we want from them. But even if they could read our minds, their own preferences, predilections and blind spots interfere with their intuitive powers. When we add our own disappointment about...