Unilateral Disarmament

Martial arts teach the benefits of yielding when attacked. When force isn’t met with force, opponents have nothing to push against and will topple from their own momentum. When our egos get threatened in relationships, we sometimes slip into relating to our...

Communicate

Open channels of communication produce the best results in all relationships. In order to avoid long term build up of unexpressed issues, it’s important to let others know when something related to them is bothering us. The same goes for listening to their...

The Weight of Expectation

When we expect our loved ones to satisfy all our needs and keep us happy, we put unreasonable pressure on them and the relationship. The condition of any relationship is determined by the psychological well being of each individual. Though it is tempting to believe we...

Revelationships

Our relationships can reveal a lot about ourselves if we’re courageous enough to use them that way. For instance, when someone pushes our buttons and we go within to inquire about what’s actually bugging us, we’ll often find something in ourselves...

Assume the Best

When someone offends you, remember that you can’t really know what their intentions are. Creating a negative story about their motivations may validate your hurt feelings, but it also aggravates matters by adding toxic energy into the mix. Their behavior most likely...

Use the Reflection

Difficulties encountered in relationships are ideal opportunities to gain deeper understanding about yourself. The ostensible issues don’t matter nearly as much as how you feel and respond to them. When you’re offended or hurt, know that the experience is...