Judgment Vs. Discernment

You generally judge the things that you have little tolerance for in yourself. When you’re totally dismissive in your condemnation, it’s often because your own identity is involved. Judgment usually lacks kindness. Discernment is another story....

Don’t Shoot the Messenger

When someone offends you, rejoice. You’ve just been reminded of a less-than-loving belief you have about yourself. What you perceive is filtered through your own self-judgments. If someone says you’re too tall, but you don’t feel uncomfortable about...

Truth About Lies

When someone lies to you, realize it’s never personal or meant to hurt you. They’re only lying to make themselves feel better, avoid unpleasant consequences or maintain control. When you make it about you, you hurt yourself. While it’s unpleasant to...

Giving Love Makes You Feel Loved

A man came to a wise sage and said, “I don’t love my wife anymore, what shall I do?” The wise man advised, “Love her!” “But sir, that’s the problem, I don’t anymore.” “Exactly!” replied the sage. The...