by Merci Gracia | Aug 8, 2012 | Discernment, Judgments, Kindness, Love
You generally judge the things that you have little tolerance for in yourself. When you’re totally dismissive in your condemnation, it’s often because your own identity is involved. Judgment usually lacks kindness. Discernment is another story....
by Merci Gracia | Jul 31, 2012 | Empowering, Freedom, Love, Self-Awareness
A fearful ego can create havoc in your life and cause you to suffer. But you can take control. The best way to do it is to honor your feelings by actually feeling them. Distracting yourself won’t work for long and thinking or talking about them makes things...
by Merci Gracia | Jul 24, 2012 | Love
When someone offends you, rejoice. You’ve just been reminded of a less-than-loving belief you have about yourself. What you perceive is filtered through your own self-judgments. If someone says you’re too tall, but you don’t feel uncomfortable about...
by Merci Gracia | Jul 10, 2012 | Fear, Honesty, Love, Trust, Truth, Understanding
When someone lies to you, realize it’s never personal or meant to hurt you. They’re only lying to make themselves feel better, avoid unpleasant consequences or maintain control. When you make it about you, you hurt yourself. While it’s unpleasant to...
by Merci Gracia | Jun 30, 2012 | Advice, Giving, Love
A man came to a wise sage and said, “I don’t love my wife anymore, what shall I do?” The wise man advised, “Love her!” “But sir, that’s the problem, I don’t anymore.” “Exactly!” replied the sage. The...
by Merci Gracia | Jun 17, 2012 | Awareness, Conscious, Kindness, Love, Perception, Self-Awareness
What you see happening in the world around you is a mirror of what’s going on inside you. When you’re kind to yourself, you see kindness everywhere. When you don’t pay enough attention to your feelings, others don’t either. The more you learn...