by Merci Gracia | Feb 15, 2020 | Judgments, Love
There’s one kind of love that makes all other types of love possible: Self-love. Until we love ourselves we can’t truly love others. In fact, most of our problems with others stem from issues we have with ourselves because we project our fears,...
by Merci Gracia | Dec 26, 2019 | Judgments, Perception
The circumstances of each moment are always neutral until we assign meaning to them. We decide whether something meets our expectations, conforms to our sense of reality, whether it foretells good or is an ominous signal of a troubled future. It’s difficult for...
by Merci Gracia | Dec 16, 2019 | Judgments, Projections
The world we see is a reflection of our internal world. Things that aggravate us are simply aspects of ourselves that are being mirrored back. Others may gaze upon the same situation or behavior and have an entirely different response. Of course we’re more...
by Merci Gracia | Dec 9, 2019 | Judgments
We’re hardwired to monitor our surroundings for danger. Since we’re rarely under threat of real physical harm, this instinctual tendency to protect ourselves often results in unnecessary judgment, superfluous suspicion and needless negativity. The solution...
by Merci Gracia | Oct 8, 2019 | Faith, Judgments
Most of us assume that we know what’s going on. We’re opinionated about what’s right and wrong and how things should be. In truth, we see a very small sliver of the big picture. Hardships turn out to be lessons, missteps result in serendipitous...
by Merci Gracia | Oct 3, 2019 | Judgments
We bring out different aspects in one another, depending on our history, habits and belief systems. If we judge others, they feel it and act accordingly. Our judgments are really about us because we’re usually just projecting our fears, aspirations and...