Judgments Are Self-Revealing

by | Apr 29, 2014 | Acceptance, Judgments

If you notice yourself frequently judging people, take note. Failure to accept others is usually a sign that you lack self-acceptance. Though you probably think your judgments are about them, you’re often just reacting to behavior that you also engage in, feel...

Bad Is Good

by | Apr 9, 2014 | Judgments, Love

Every moment contains an equal amount of what you might consider good and bad. If bad didn’t exist, you couldn’t distinguish the good. Seeing things you don’t like helps you know what you do like. The intrinsically varied nature of existence only...

What If You Changed Your Mind?

by | Jan 18, 2014 | Judgments, Problems

Think of some element in your life that’s bugging you right now. It could be an issue with a friend, work, finances or health. Do you feel bad when you think about it? Do you blame yourself (or somebody else) for the situation? What if you decided right now that...

Beginner’s Mind

by | Jan 1, 2014 | Ease, Judgments, Love

“In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s there are few.” – Zen Master Shunryo Suzuki.  As you begin this new year, take a fresh look at your life. Suspend all judgments, complaints and disappointments as you examine your life through a...

Ideal Versus Actual

by | Nov 26, 2013 | Acceptance, Judgments, Love

Most people suffer over the discrepancy between the world they’d like to see and the one they do see. Judging something as wrong because it’s not in alignment with your preferences is common, but self defeating. It often causes you to blame, shame and...

Listening Works

by | Nov 21, 2013 | Judgments

Next time you’re in a disagreement, stay present and listen to what the other person is saying. It doesn’t matter what you’re discussing, forcefully insisting that you are right only strengthens the other’s resolve. The more unyielding you are,...