Form Vs. Content

by | Jun 15, 2019 | Authenticity, Identity

Sometimes we see others through external metrics like their accomplishments, degrees, fame or  possessions. These markers can impress us and temporarily cause us to forget to evaluate whether they also have other, more important qualities like authenticity, kindness,...

Inside and Outside

by | Mar 21, 2019 | Identity, Self-Awareness

Whether you’re a famous inventor or a clerk in a store, what you do in the outside world doesn’t really matter in the big scheme of things. Egos like to feel unique, separate and better, but what matters most is who you are on the inside. Do you live...

Identity Dead End

by | Jan 28, 2019 | Identity

When we’re ego driven, we try to differentiate ourselves in hopes of feeling worthy. Spinning narratives about our lives to gain admiration slows our evolution. Instead of listening, we’re talking. Instead of finding our inner truth, we’re busy...

Goodism

by | Dec 2, 2018 | Identity

Being of service or wanting to do good is noble. However, wanting others to know about our good deeds is often an unconscious attempt to compensate for feelings of unworthiness, (or a strategy to get attention.) We know our motivation is healthy when we act simply...

Self-Consciousness

by | Apr 30, 2018 | Identity, Self-Awareness

It’s common to want to protect our self-image. If we feel it’s threatened, we can react defensively or aggressively, as if our very safety hangs in the balance. But, activation of these instinctive reactions to protect our personal identity, ironically...

Downside of Defensiveness

by | Apr 18, 2018 | Humility, Identity

Defensiveness is a byproduct of feeling that people see our behavior differently than we want them to. Unfortunately, it results in a lack of receptivity to the feedback being offered. The practice of checking this knee-jerk reaction and instead opening to what people...