Turn It Around

by Merci Gracia | Feb 27, 2012 | Forgiveness, Honesty, Judgments, Self-Awareness

People usually judge the very characteristics in others that they exhibit themselves in some way. Next time you find yourself mentally criticizing someone, recognize them as a mirror and silently thank them for bringing you greater self-awareness. Look for your own...

Problems

by Merci Gracia | Jan 23, 2012 | Habits, Honesty, interpretation, Problems, Self-Awareness, Understanding, Victim Thinking, Wisdom

What you call a problem is just your resistance to what is. Life doesn’t get it wrong. Next time you identify a problem, ask yourself if you can really know that it shouldn’t be happening just the way it is.  If you’re honest, you’ll admit you...

Don’t be Driven…Drive

by Merci Gracia | Dec 29, 2011 | Attention, Authenticity, Balance, Conscious, Honesty

When you’re compelled to do anything by an unconscious need to feel worthy, you’re driven. You can identify this compulsion when you notice you’re working too hard. Get in the driver’s seat by looking those impulses squarely in the eyes and...

The One You Need to Forgive

by Merci Gracia | Jun 29, 2011 | Acceptance, Compassion, Forgiveness, Honesty, Kindness, Perception, Self-Awareness, Understanding

Nothing anyone ever does is about you. When you get this, the idea of forgiveness is a moot point. If someone offends you, take a moment to question if you’re really just angry with yourself for being in the situation in the first place. Then let yourself off...

The Truth About Us All

by Merci Gracia | Jun 27, 2011 | Authenticity, Honesty, Self-Awareness, Truth, Understanding

We should all walk around with a sign posted on our foreheads that reads: Please don’t take anything I say or do personally. I’m as self-oriented as you are. Everything I say and do is consciously or unconsciously aimed at pleasing me, even when it seems...

The Alchemy of Difference

by Merci Gracia | Apr 29, 2011 | Acceptance, Appreciation, Authenticity, Balance, Harmony, Honesty, Understanding

All relationships experience conflict now and then. Honest expression naturally gives rise to a diversity of opinion. When there is mutual respect and a desire to understand one another, what begins as conflict can end in valuable growth. Like the sand in an...