Forgiveness Phobia

by Merci Gracia | Jun 23, 2017 | Forgiveness

Having difficulty apologizing is a sign that we’re unwilling to entertain the possibility that we’re partially responsible for disharmony. We may have a less-than-healthy sense of self-worth or even some shame that makes it difficult to admit we’re...

It’s Not Personal

by Merci Gracia | Apr 12, 2017 | Forgiveness

It’s hard to forgive when someone hurts us. Especially when it feels like they had no regard for our feelings. But other’s actions are rarely about us. They may have been selfish, unthoughtful or even cruel, but their behavior was designed to make...

Imagine

by Merci Gracia | Mar 28, 2017 | Forgiveness

Think of someone for whom you hold a grievance or of a situation in your life that feels wrong, unfair or offensive. Without focusing on specifics or adding energy to the situation, just notice the sensations you feel in your body when you think about that topic....

Judgment

by Merci Gracia | Jan 7, 2017 | Forgiveness

The way we feel about others is inextricably linked to the way we feel about ourselves. Aspects of our own personalities that we detest or disown get projected onto others where we subconsciously and mistakenly think it’s safe to dislike them. But disdaining...

Life Is Fragile

by Merci Gracia | Feb 22, 2016 | Forgiveness, Love

Life is so precious and fragile. Our time here is such a gift. This is never so obvious as it is when something unexpected happens to you or a loved one. When you develop a regular practice loving and forgiving yourself and others, you can maximize your appreciation...

Healing Family Dysfunction

by Merci Gracia | Dec 17, 2015 | Forgiveness

If you grew up in a dysfunctional family as many do, following these basic steps can help you heal. First, be honest and admit the dysfunction. Imagine you chose your parents in order to evolve through the dysfunction. Second, don’t blame yourself, you’re...