by Merci Gracia | May 27, 2018 | Feelings
When we feel hurt by others’ actions, it can easily morph into anger. Because we don’t want to feel the way we do, we go straight to our head and concoct a story about why they are to blame. Ironically, what’s causing our feelings is usually a...
by Merci Gracia | May 25, 2018 | Feelings
Every one of us is occasionally touched by sadness. Whether it’s the result of something directly related to our lives or something we hear about secondarily that triggers it, sadness is a fact of life. Denying we have feelings or distracting ourselves from them...
by Merci Gracia | May 11, 2018 | Feelings
Sometimes our emotional reactions are so uncomfortable that we repress them, convincing ourselves that we’re ‘beyond’ them. Although we may rationalize and believe it’s true, this coping strategy simply prolongs suffering. No short cut will...
by Merci Gracia | May 9, 2018 | Feelings, Self-Awareness
You can’t control the feelings that arise in you – and you shouldn’t try. You can’t even know for sure where your feelings come from. But, you can definitely control the type of thoughts you cultivate. This is vitally important because every...
by Merci Gracia | Jan 28, 2018 | Feelings
When we don’t feel emotionally ‘seen and heard’ in a relationship or particular area of our lives, we can employ varying strategies to get others to pay attention. We may be straightforward or manipulative. We may use anger or guilt, issue demands or...
by Merci Gracia | Dec 4, 2017 | Feelings
We all have feelings, but we aren’t always aware that we’re having them or don’t know how effectively process them. When fear, anger, sadness and other difficult emotions arise, we can react by denying, distracting or rationalizing. But these...