by Merci Gracia | Sep 15, 2012 | Beliefs, Feelings, Happiness, Perception, Problems, Thoughts
Life is too short to spend time being unhappy. If you’re stuck in a rut, take a look at the story you’re telling yourself. No matter what it is, you’re free to tell a different one at any point in time. Focus on how you want to feel and imagine...
by Merci Gracia | Sep 8, 2012 | Attention, Feelings, Focus, Suffering, Victim Thinking
When life presents you with a huge challenge, do you resent the well-meaning and encouraging words from people you know? If so, check in to see if you’ve actually felt your feelings yet. You may have skipped that step and gone straight into creating an identity...
by Merci Gracia | Sep 4, 2012 | Challenges, Ease, Feelings, Focus
Grief, pain, hardship and sickness are part of life. The way you choose to deal with what life brings is really what determines your experience of it. You can develop a compelling story, elicit some juicy sympathy, even create an entire identity around your grist. Or...
by Merci Gracia | Aug 31, 2012 | Attention, Beliefs, Feelings, Focus, interpretation, Understanding
What you hear is interpreted through the filter of your beliefs. Your mind rearranges what others say to fit into your understanding of the world, your beliefs or what you want to hear. A clear example of this is the game ‘Telephone,’ in which a simple...
by Merci Gracia | Aug 28, 2012 | Feelings, Trust, Victim Thinking
When you feel bad because something has (or hasn’t) happened, try this little experiment: trust that it’s for the best. No matter what it is, have the humility to realize that you can’t actually know what the alternatives are or if they’re...
by Merci Gracia | Aug 21, 2012 | Feelings, Focus, Love
It’s important to feel your feelings, but talking about them keeps you in your head, thinking rather than feeling. This can actually fuel the situation and make matters worse. When you’re suffering, sit down, scan your body and feel your physical...