Open to Serendipity

by | Sep 3, 2021 | Control

The need to control everything comes from fear. Wanting life to go the way we think it should and feeling distressed when it doesn’t, takes the enjoyment out of life. Surveying our surroundings and noticing how much of it we didn’t actually create, helps...

The Downside of Strategizing

by | Jul 30, 2021 | Control, Create Your Reality

Trying to control every aspect of life is unpleasant for everyone around us and causes us to miss out on the serendipity that happens with spontaneity. When we accept what shows up, we’re in the right frame of mind to respond to life appropriately. It’s...

Live and Let Live

by | Jul 14, 2021 | Control, Self-Awareness

Though usually well-meaning, parents, siblings, friends and spouses who try to control their loved ones are bound to harvest the bitter fruit of inevitable resentment. Struggling to get others to conform to our standards is a battle with no victors. Doing what we...

Control Verses Trust

by | Jan 19, 2021 | Control, Trust

Feeling stress when life doesn’t go the way we think it should is exhausting. The need for control stems from fear. Surveying our surroundings and acknowledging how much of it we didn’t create helps us to understand that things might actually turn out okay...

Control Yourself

by | Nov 10, 2019 | Control

There are so many things in our lives over which we have no control, that it requires a skillful effort of both actively using our minds to live in balance and just letting go. We don’t control global events, others’ behavior or the tendencies and...

Can’t Change Em

by | Dec 23, 2018 | Acceptance, Control

Trying to change others to fit our idea of how they should be is bound to backfire. It’s a vote of ‘no confidence’ because we’re effectively telling them we don’t value who they are right now. If their behavior harms us emotionally or...