Ask for What You Want

by Merci Gracia | Sep 28, 2018 | Communicate lovingly, Relationship

We often unconsciously expect others to read our minds and know exactly what we want from them. But even if they could read our minds, their own preferences, predilections and blind spots interfere with their intuitive powers. When we add our own disappointment about...

Feelings Aren’t Truth

by Merci Gracia | Aug 14, 2018 | Communicate lovingly

Because of the various paths we’ve travelled leading to this moment, we each have distinct preferences. What bothers one is a non-issue to another. Because we don’t like something, it doesn’t mean it’s necessarily bad or wrong. Approaching...

Tiffs, Squabbles and Fights

by Merci Gracia | May 17, 2018 | Communicate lovingly, Relationship

Whether we’re having a minor tiff or doing full-on battle with someone, it’s important to remember that it always takes two to tango. There’s the initial incident, the other side’s interpretation and the baggage of the relationship involved....

How to Communicate Effectively

by Merci Gracia | Mar 26, 2018 | Communicate lovingly

The easiest way to develop good communication skills is to remember that we’re all unique variations of the same energetic force and we all want to be treated with love.  Forgetting this connection can cause us to blame, shame and guilt trip. Communicating with...

What You Don’t Know

by Merci Gracia | Oct 8, 2017 | Communicate lovingly

You can never really know why others act as they do. If you’d had the identical programming and experience, you’d behave exactly as they do. For instance, If someone’s driving seems erratic or dangerous, they could actually be reckless and...

Understanding Breeds Compassion

by Merci Gracia | Nov 30, 2016 | Communicate lovingly

Some see good where others see nothing but bad. Some feel hopelessness while others feel enthusiasm. We can even miss what’s directly in front of us if we don’t believe it’s possible or haven’t seen it before. Because of our (mostly...