Do You Have Control Freakitus?

When something isn’t going the way you think it should, do you get uncomfortable and try to realign matters to fit your preferences? Or do you pause for reflection and take look at what you might be able to learn from the situation? The need to control is an...

Embrace Change

Whether you find the world wonderful or miserable, it will soon change. And, though it’s worthwhile taking action and pursuing your agenda, it’s more important to develop the mental flexibility to adapt to new conditions and find equilibrium when the world...

Get Clear for a Change

You can absolutely count on the world continuously changing. Whether it will change into what you want is another matter. Even though you have little control over what happens, you do have control over how you feel about it. When you get clear about how you want to...

Framing Isn’t Just for Pictures

The reference points you use to help you make sense of the world aren’t absolute truths. They aren’t even definite. They just comprise the framework within which you’ve organized the world to better understand it. If you discover that your framework...

Accept What Is

The most important emotional continuum in life is the one that stretches between acceptance and resistance. Resistance is a contraction that limits creativity. Since you can’t focus on two things at the same time, when your attention is on what’s wrong,...

War…What Is It Good For?

Except in rare cases, going to war with anything is a fairly ineffective way to create positive transformation. The much publicized and very expensive ‘war on drugs’ provides a cautionary lesson of how not to go about trying to effect change. After...