by Merci Gracia | Jan 6, 2021 | Anger, Blame, shame
Anger is often the result of old emotional wounds getting triggered. Even though a nearby person may appear be the offending party, this is rarely the case. When old wounds get reactivated, blaming outward causes us to miss important opportunities to heal. Personal...
by Merci Gracia | Jul 30, 2020 | Blame, Responsibility, Self-Awareness
No one is to blame for the way we feel. That’s an inside job. No one causes our unhappiness (or our happiness). Blaming others, especially those closest to us, gives away our power. It’s an unwise response to dissatisfaction. Others have the right to live...
by Merci Gracia | Oct 9, 2019 | Blame
It’s tempting to blame others for things that go wrong. We often do it automatically when our egos get activated. However, the more we inquire within, the more we realize that we’re actually upset with ourselves for allowing the perceived wrong to happen....
by Merci Gracia | Jan 16, 2018 | Blame
Spats and arguments are often the result of stress, fatigue or activation of unknown triggers. When you’re in someone else’s cross hairs, it’s crucial to avoid getting activated yourself. It can be difficult to remain calm when you’re unfairly...
by Merci Gracia | Apr 5, 2016 | Blame
What particular beliefs, decisions and behaviors in your past added up to your life as it is right now? If you blame yourself for everything that goes wrong, answering this is difficult because it makes you feel like you’ve done something wrong or that...
by Merci Gracia | Sep 24, 2014 | Blame
Blame is a dead end. While it may feel more comfortable to believe that other people’s behavior is responsible for the way you feel, it takes away your power and makes you a victim. The remedy is not to blame yourself, but rather to examine cause and effect....