Everything Is For You

It’s easy to see how situations you appreciate benefit you, but the upside is trickier to find when something disturbing or unwanted happens. These are the times when it’s normal to complain and find an outsider person or force to blame. Any relief...

Pollyanna or Warrior?

People who are perpetually positive are often characterized as Pollyannas, which implies they’re either clueless or in denial about the negative side of life. This simplification overlooks a very important exception. Rather than being naively optimistic, they...

What Are You Receiving?

Choosing to hold others in high regard, considering their kindest, most highly evolved attributes, makes you receptive to interactions with them that support this attitude. If you take potentially true (or even mistakenly false) negative judgments of them and replay...

Be Who You Want to Be

You don’t have to be wealthy to be generous, start by offering a smile. You don’t have to be a famous artist to feel creative, doodle on a notepad. You don’t need more friends to feel social, say something nice to the person next to you in line. If...

The Power of Perspective

Experiences land on each of us differently depending on our history, beliefs and attitude. No matter how much importance the world places on any particular event, the crucial factor for us is how it makes us feel. The details of what happens are often our of our...

If You Don’t Like the Station…

We may not be in charge of every detail of our life, but we are in charge of how we emotionally handle whatever shows up. Regardless of our external circumstances, we decide how to respond. Simply trying to change what’s out there won’t change how we feel....