Misery: Don’t Feed It!

When you experience disappointment, fear or anger, do you immediately want to tell others about it? It’s normal to seek solace by sharing negative experiences, but it often simply deepens discontent. Recounting stories of heartache, misfortune or injustice feeds...

Mindfulness Defined

The way to get the most out of life is to be present in every moment. The more time you’re actually focused on what you’re doing, the more you’re really living. The fast pace of modern life necessitates that you spend some time planning for the...

Our Attention Is an Offering

How we direct our attention matters. If we’re primarily focused on what our mate, children or friends do wrong, the way we treat them and the way they feel about us is very different than when we’re focused on what they do right. Finding fault in people...

The Power of Listening

The ability to really listen to others is powerful, but surprisingly rare. When we’re supposed to be listening, most of us are thinking of what we are going to say next. We may be thinking of how to expand their point, argue against it or just generally...

Hurdles to Happiness

It’s normal to believe we’ll experience the best part of life at some point in the future, once we’ve put aside enough money, advanced our careers or overcome some hurdles. But this thinking presents one of the biggest obstacles to experiencing a...

Create With Intention

It’s common to take what’s going well for granted and focus a disproportionate amount of attention on what isn’t. Time spent complaining about problems amplifies the energy of dissatisfaction, while doing nothing to change or improve the situation. Awareness of...