by Merci Gracia | May 16, 2019 | Anger
We’re rarely angry for the reasons we think. Emotions created by early life experiences reside just below the surface of our conscious awareness. Occasionally something reminds us of a situation that originally caused that anger and a new flare up arises. But...
by Merci Gracia | May 8, 2019 | Anger, Self-Awareness
When we’re angry, we often think someone else is the cause. It feels safer to project our feelings outward. But the truth is, we’re probably angry with ourselves, because deep down, we all know we can’t control how others think or behave. Projecting...
by Merci Gracia | Feb 20, 2019 | Anger, Self-Awareness
It’s normal for anger to arise when someone’s behavior feels rude or disrespectful. It’s also valid to let the other know how it felt in a reasonable and kind manner. This gives the ‘offender’ a chance to explain our/their actions in case...
by Merci Gracia | Jan 7, 2019 | Anger
Anger sometimes gets a bad rap. Most of us feel uncomfortable admitting we’re angry and instead we deny it, stuff it and pretend we’re not. It then gets lodged in our bodies setting up the perfect environment for chronic pain. While it’s rarely...
by Merci Gracia | Nov 20, 2018 | Anger, Relationship
Many emotional dramas can be avoided by simply pausing before reacting. When someone is feeling distraught and says something that triggers us, it’s common to respond from a perspective of indignation, as if to say, ‘How dare you characterize me that...
by Merci Gracia | Oct 18, 2018 | Anger
Anger is a natural reaction to unwanted, unexpected or fearful circumstances. The feeling originates in the primitive part of the brain which is concerned with survival. Acknowledging when we’re angry is an absolute requirement for maintaining a healthy...