Can’t Change Em

by | Dec 23, 2018 | Acceptance, Control

Trying to change others to fit our idea of how they should be is bound to backfire. It’s a vote of ‘no confidence’ because we’re effectively telling them we don’t value who they are right now. If their behavior harms us emotionally or...

True Definition of Love

by | Dec 13, 2018 | Acceptance, Love

Truly loving someone means we love them without qualification. Even when we don’t like or accept their behavior, we still love them. When someone no longer fits the role we’ve expected them to play in our life, we can set limits, reduce our involvement,...

Boundaries and Acceptance

by | Dec 10, 2018 | Acceptance, Boundaries

Setting boundaries helps us create the kind of life we want. But knowing how and when to set them isn’t always obvious. If we move through life constantly telling people what they should and shouldn’t do, it won’t be pleasant for us or them. Many of...

Status Isn’t Real

by | Nov 12, 2018 | Acceptance

At some point, most of us have dreamed of having fame, fortune and universal acknowledgment. But, the imagined benefits of these are illusions. Genuine approval is only possible when we live authentically and others appreciate us for who we really are. Approval and...

Finding What’s Right

by | Nov 8, 2018 | Acceptance

Finding something of benefit in every situation not only affects how you feel about the issue, it enhances your response to it. Complaining and negativity are equally powerful, only they trap you in blame, anger and victimhood. Looking for what’s right, lightens...

Find the Connection

by | Oct 7, 2018 | Acceptance

Competing, winning, approval-seeking and acquiring status don’t really deliver what you might think. While they seem like plausible methods of distinguishing yourself in order to get positive feedback, they actually make you feel separate. Rather than helping you...