Stuffing our emotions to avoid conflict ultimately results in bigger problems. No matter how uncomfortable it might feel to talk about our feelings now, it’s far easier than waiting until we’re on the verge of exploding. Emotions don’t disappear when we suppress them, they fester, incubate, gain energy and become more problematic. It is worth waiting until we’re calm and collected so we can broach the matter in a kind and civil way, but avoidance is counterproductive. When we’re able to communicate our feelings early on without accusations or blame, we’re much more likely to be heard and…
Get results.
This was exactly what I needed to hear this morning. It confirmed a difficult conversation I had over someone else’s driving. I was afraid I was getting picky and going to hurt his feelings, but I chose a good time and a day later he thanked me and accepted the comment as good feedback.
I’m learning to be more authentic and loving in my communications too.