Forgiving implies that it’s our prerogative to let someone off the hook. But the beauty of real forgiveness is that it lets us off the hook. Forgiveness releases us from the burden of believing we’ve been wronged. True forgiveness frees us from needing an apology, confession, or a change in the outside world. Only we have the power to hurt ourselves. Understanding that nothing is ever personal helps us remember that everyone’s actions, however egregious or misdirected they might seem to us, come from one, basic urge…
The desire to feel better.
