The way to nurture excellent relationships is to have healthy boundaries. But we have to choose which issues are important and which are petty objections to inconsequential or harmless behavior. Trying to change others is like a vote of no-confidence – it provokes resentment and stifles intimacy. When we’re gauging how important it is for others to change, this question works best: If they were to die tomorrow, how vital would it be for them to change that small, annoying behavior? Working on our own lack of tolerance is more to the point, kind and yields…
Better results.
