When things don’t go according to plan, it’s tempting to complain about it and then complain about it some more, fooling yourself into thinking that if you talk about it enough and get enough people to agree with you, you’re somehow working on the problem. But, in fact, you’re actually just magnifying it. Without taking action to modify your own choices, behaviors or boundaries, complaining subconsciously translates into helplessness and makes the issues feel bigger. When you realize your own part in creating problems, you don’t waste time talking about them to others because you’re busy…
Fixing them.
