Most of the arguments we have are in our own heads. We imagine what ‘they’ might say and form rebuttals. But no one out there is arguing with us. Engaging in fantasy feuds hypes us up and may even land us in emotional imbalance. The subsequent feelings and suffering aren’t coming from the other person (or people), but rather from the narrative we’ve created in our own heads. It’s empowering to realize this because once we’re conscious, we can stop creating our own discomfort…

At will.