Softening and letting go in an argument doesn’t mean we don’t express our feelings. It means we do it with less attachment to being right or winning. It means we do it with the intention to communicate so we can understand one another. Understanding creates an opening for resolution. We all want to feel seen, heard and validated. While that’s ultimately an inside job, partners can help each other by patiently listening until the other has finished speaking. Understanding their viewpoint before expressing ours helps us remember…

We’re on the same team.

Stay tuned for part lV tomorrow

Jarl and Steve.